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Today my heart cracked a little
I read the story of a mother from Mercer County, PA
Cracked my heart a little
I cried me a river when I heard
Mary Rader is a mother of four
Doing her job was too much of a chore
With her own mother and her mother’s husband living at her home
There’s was almost one child for each adult
Who could ask for more
But in her eyes it wasn’t good enough
So I don’t know her rhyme or her reason
But she chose her 7-year-old son Antonio
To be sent to his own private dungeon
He slept in the basement
with the cold cement floor for his bed and his bathroom
No company, no food, no hot water
Sometimes allowed upstairs for the sake of a cold shower
Maybe a small fraction of food
An occasional trip to the backyard
Not remembering how to play he catches bugs like a snake
for that he is beaten
He tries to sneak real food but is beaten again
So it’s time to return to the basement
Where silence has become his best friend
Each day that passes his pounds slip away
His little teeth begin to rot and his feet have become infected
What his case worker sees when he is finally found
is a poor little 7-year-old skeleton near his death
The adults tending to the house
Show no remorse of course
The case worker is puzzled
When she finds three healthy siblings running about the house
With no rhyme or reason poor Antonio lay wasting away
in a tomb darkened by boarded windows
What wrong could a poor little boy do
Covered in urine and feces atop his dirt riddled body
Near death she said
An undeserving mother now facing charges
Antonio and siblings with a better future ahead
Now Mary Rader must face the music
There is no penance that can save her
A full sentence must be served
May god heal her children with happiness and cheer
May they find peace through the love of good people
This is the only thing that can heal the crack in my heart
Copyright 2014 Today my heart cracked a little© Felina Silver Robinson
I just read the CBS News story “Litany of horrors allegedly inflicted on boy found nearly dying of starvation“. As a listened to the reporter, Mary Robb Jackson interviewing neighbors and telling the story, I just couldn’t stop crying. There were times that I was a single mother with three children, then again with six children. There was never a time when a single one of my children were left to starve. I would go without if I had to for the sake of my children. Fortunately, that’s not really something I had to deal with. There isn’t anything I wouldn’t do to make sure that ALL of my children were fed and their needs tended to. I almost feel as though poor Antonio’s mother, Mary Rader, blindly picked one of her children’s names out of a hat and that poor child was going to endure the most horrific conditions of their life most likely because the mother felt she couldn’t afford to take care of all of them with the limited resources she had. Poor Antonio knew no better than to catch insects and eat them because he had nothing else to eat. He couldn’t play as other children did because he had no energy. I can’t even imagine how he carried the weight of his riddled body from place to place, with infected feet and an extreme lack of strength. I don’t know how he wasn’t asphyxiated by the smell of his own defecation and decay, no clean air to breathe. Only by the grace of god there was even 25 lbs left of him to be rescued.
In my lifetime, I have served as a jury member 3 of the 4 times I was called to duty. Each time the case was related to drunk driving. Despite my feelings on the subject, I was able to serve as madam foreman objectively each time. If I were called upon to serve on this case, there is absolutely no way that I would have any objectivity. As a mother of six there is no one that would be permitted to inflict any harm towards my own children without paying a price. Mary Rader must be punished to the fullest extent of the law as should Antonio’s maternal grandmother Deanna Beighley and her husband Dennis Beighley for being fully aware of what was occurring and doing absolutely nothing to help young Antonio. How can you tend to the needs of three other children, who seemingly in good health, and basically attempt to obliterate young Antonio’s life. What could such a young child have done that was so wrong causing his mother to commit such a heinous and unforgiving act? In cases such as this, while everyone has the right to due process, this particular case should be exempt.
Mary Rader, Deanna Beighley and Dennis Beighley’s trials should be pushed aside and they should be sentenced to endure the same conditions that poor Antonio did for at least the same period, if not longer.
I hope that Antonio and his siblings can be placed somewhere that no one will have heard about their story, they can change their names and erase the past they had no power to control. They deserve a fresh start with people who will put them first and make all the normal parental sacrifices you would expect a parent to make.
Every time I see a boarded up window with children’s toys in the yard or on the porch, I will wonder if there is a child victim being neglected by an insanely, unconscionable, sorry excuse of a parent.
I implore our justice system to truly seek justice for Antonio and his siblings.
Felina Silver Robinson
A Mothers Love
There is nothing stronger than a mother’s love
Mom has 9 months to get to know her child
Mother and child are linked together through flesh and blood
Likes and dislikes
All that mom eats, drinks and smokes, the baby does too
If mommy is an alcoholic or a drug addict
Her baby will be fighting for her life
A mother’s love has to be stronger than life itself
For it’s a life she will be protecting
From the moment of birth
Til the moment of death
A mothers love must get her child through thick and thin
Nothing can stand in their way
Mom will learn when to take a step back
Even if it means her child must fall
A child must learn how to pick themselves back up again
Because mom will not always be there
Mom will listen to all that must be said
Weather good or bad
She must be supportive
Even if she doesn’t agree
A Mothers love gives her strength to deal with all things
Copyright 2014 A Mothers Love© Felina Silver Robinson
The Voice of Autism: Why does my daughter hate me
She yells at me for reasons unknown
Everything mean thing they said to her is now meant for me
There is no reasoning, no rationalization of her words or behavior
She cries thinking no one loves her
All you can do is reassure her that you are there and you care
She tells you she hates you
She calls you a liar and runs out the door
She doesn’t go far because she’s mad at the world
She knows they won’t understand her
She walks up and down and back and forth til she’s calmed herself again
She re-enters the house and asks for forgiveness
She tells me she loves me and lets me know I’m the best
What can I do, What can I say
I tell her I love her and let all the bad slip away
She calms and slips into sleep for the night
All is forgotten once again
My only hope is that tomorrow is better
That she will learn to love herself
And stop hating me
Even though she professes her love for me
Copyright 2014 The Voice of Autism: Why does my daughter hate me© Felina Silver Robinson
1. Why do people lie even when they know it’s easier to tell the truth?
2. Today I saw a mother push her child to the ground, but immediately turned around to see if she was ok. What was the point of hurting the child just so she could comfort her?
3. I was so happy to hear that the Bruins beat Red Wings, and reach next playoff round
4. Raising teenage children is just as hard on the kids as it is on the adults.
5. Last week my youngest daughter woke up having grown a full 4″ in her sleep. That sure seems unusual to me. Now I real feel weird because I’m 5″4 and 1/2 and she is an even 5″4 at 12 years of age.
6. For some reason, I can’t seem to get the song “Bette Davis Eyes” out of my head.
7. I’m watching this movie called Phase IV while my husband is passed out snoring in the bed. It has to be one of the most slow-moving movies I have ever watched. But for some strange reason, I can’t stop watching it.
8. I truly hated hearing the story about the 24-year-old dies in fall from balcony.
9. I’m randomly wondering what’s going on with Tiger Woods. I haven’t heard his name mentioned recently. I’m wondering what he’s doing now.
10. It feels strange to be the only one stirring about in the house with everyone else asleep already. I kind of like the peaceful moments thou. Sometimes, I wish it could last longer.