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Susie and Roberta became friends in 1970 when they both started 2nd grade. Susie’s family had moved from New Britain, CT where the population was about 83,441. They noticed a significant difference upon arriving in Brookline MA where the population was only 58,886. They left a considerable amount friends and family behind. but Susie’s dad had received a job offer he just couldn’t refuse. Roberta didn’t care she was happy knowing she would no longer be lonely. Now she had someone to share her love of music with. Together Susie and Roberta decided their favorite artist was Carole King because all of her songs were relatable to their lives at the time. They decided that “You’ve got a friend” was officially their song. At least twice a week you could find them in either of their rooms holding hair brushes to their mouths singing each word of the song with a strong emphasis on the word “friend”.

Susie and Roberta spent every available moment together. You could definitely tell the difference in both their moods as well as their behaviors when they weren’t together. There were years of sleepover parties, secret boyfriends, parties their parents didn’t and wouldn’t ever know about. They were definitely the masters of keeping secrets. Don’t get me wrong they were both decent and respectful young women, any parent would be proud to have them. They were just slightly mischievous like every other girl their age. There wasn’t anything they couldn’t tell you about the other. They had every possible class together and were academically at the same level in school which is how they were able to keep up on all their work and their conversations were endless. Susie and Roberta never tired of one another.

To keep things exciting once the girls hit eighth grade, they decided to take ice skating lessons together.  Twice a week they took classes at the local skating rink. They had both gotten rather good. One Saturday afternoon there was a skating event at the rink. There were too wild boys that were continuously racing around the rink. Despite the many amounts of warning that they would be kicked off the floor, the boys continued with the same behavior. One of the boys was going so fast that when he went to pass Susie he knocked her down so fast. His friend was right behind him.  There was no time for Susie to get up and before anyone could do anything about it, the young boys ice skate had run over Susie’s neck. Everyone started screaming. The boy ran off the ice skating rink vomiting and crying. Roberta had fainted, it took three or four smelling salts before she came to. Once awake Roberta was hysterical. The ambulance attendants could barely keep her away from Susie as they worked hard to try to save her. Susie didn’t make it off the ice alive. Even though Roberta wasn’t the one who lay dying, her life with Susie continued to flash before her eyes. Susie had been taken away and her parents followed blindly. Night fell and Roberta’s parents were still trying to get her to come home. Finally a female police officer was about to coax Roberta into her parent’s car. Roberta’s parents were grateful that she would have February vacation to try to pull herself together as much as she would be able to.

Before returning to school after vacation, Susie was buried. Roberta barely spoke to anyone for the rest of the school year outside of what had to be said regarding her school work. Many tried to befriend her, she would just blurt out “No one will ever replace Susie”.  But the next year was the first year of high school and it was going to be a new world for Roberta. While at the freshman assembly she was sitting next to a girl named Anita.  All the boys were making fun of her calling her names because she had marks and scars on her face. Roberta wasn’t having it. She yelled at the boys saying “don’t talk to my friend like that, or you will be sorry.” The boys knew Roberta and they knew she meant what she said and immediately backed off and didn’t bother her again. Anita and Roberta went on to be best friends. Roberta never felt comfortable enough to talk to anyone else about her friend Susie, but Anita became the first person to be lucky enough to hear the story of their friendship. Anita has continued to be thankful and grateful for her relationship with Roberta. They remain friends still to this day although they are at opposite ends of the world now and only communicate via the internet. Roberta doesn’t let a day go by that she’s not remembering her friend Susie.

 


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By Felina Silver Robinson

Lately I’ve found that although those that you’re close to tell you they want you to “keep it real” in the relationship you have with them, that’s not at all what they really want. Most of us have feelings about a lot of things which means we are seldom likely to share the same opinions as those we spend most of our time with. Religion, money, raising kids, marriage, relationships, and education are obviously the most common things that people argue about, aside from politics which can often be the elephant in the room. Although conversations can be bumpy, once the they start, I think it’s important to talk them through. None of us like the feeling of unresolved conversation! It’s best to realize what we are uncomfortable with, talk about it until we can’t tolerate it anymore, and then whatever we can’t handle we can break it down into separate conversations. I’ve noticed that people are actually just overwhelmed with so many things that they are uncomfortable with, but when given a chance to break it down they realize that the conversation wasn’t as bad as they thought it would be.

There are however subjects that some people, despite how important their topic matter, just won’t agree to discuss, even if it would be helpful. That’s the time you just have to respect each other and know that there are some things you won’t agree on. Relationships are hard enough to keep up without adding yet another thing for the relationship to have to work through.

Different ways to “keep it real” in your life:

1. Be tactfully honest with others about your feelings. Lying about your feelings just makes the relationship more awkward.

2. Make sure the time you spend together whether in discussion, relaxing or going out, that those involved get an equal say in what goes on. It may be helpful to give each person a number so everyone in the group is given a chance to choose the activity or discussion. No one likes or appreciates feeling left out of the conversation or an activity.

3. If there is someone who you don’t want to take part in a specific event or conversation than don’t talk about it in front of them. One of the many keys to a successful relationship of any kind is always being sensitive to the feelings of others.

4. Don’t let your relationship get “stale,” try to add new things to your conversations, try new things, new restaurants, visit new places. Become adventurous!

5. Keep complaining to a minimum and try to find a more subtle way to let someone know that you might be uncomfortable with participating or, if you are plain just not feeling well. Broadcasting such situations may set the wrong tone for a group gathering and it tends to change people’s feelings about those that continuously draw attention to themselves when the attention should be elsewhere.  As we all know, there is a right and a wrong time and place for every conversation and every action.

 


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Wild Hearted In My Dreams©

Felina Silver Robinson

My Poem of the Day

(03/17/15)

Stripped of all that’s normal

I’m bare and I’m free

I run wild between the trees in the wilderness with thee

Hoping that no one will see

You bring life to my soul

My spirit is alive for a time

Not long enough for me

Before the alarm bell rings

and life gets in my way


Promises Made©

Felina Silver Robinson

My Poem of the Day

(03/16/15)

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You promised to see me through my formative years

You told me you would always be there

We had our moments here and there

But mostly I spent my days missing you

If I could I would go back in time to easier days

To try to get it right this time

But I know it wasn’t meant to be that way

So I sit by

Praying for the moment that you’ll find some time for me

And

That promises made will not be forgotten


Through The Years©

Felina Silver Robinson

My Poem of the Day

(03/15/15)

There hasn’t been a moment since I first laid eyes on you

That I haven’t missed the smile upon your face

Nor the slight snort when you laugh

The way your hair glistens when hit by the sun or

The smell of your perfume even before you enter a room

I think of when you kept me up all hours of the night when things just weren’t right

Or you just couldn’t bear to say goodnight

There were days I thought our friendship wouldn’t last

But deep down knowing that it always would

Our friendship wasn’t perfect

But it was one to remember

There was no doubt of our devotion to seeing it through

I wish there wasn’t a reason that I now sit here without you

Remembering all that use to be

As you fly high now over me

I hope you will always remember me