Archives For friendship


Quite some time has passed since last I found time to write to you. Life has its ways of running you instead of your running it. Today I have the urge to speak about relationships. In my life, I’ve had many friends, lots of acquaintances and of course we all have family. There are those we can trust and others that we can’t. No matter how much time we spend with people, no matter how many years pass the truth is we will never know all we could know about anyone in our lives. The things that draw us to one another initially can be the very thing that tears our relationship down later on. Secrets, disloyalty, lies, and abusive behavior whether it be verbal, physical or emotional are all the tools that each person to destroy their relationships. Each one of us have our breaking points for what we are willing to take or put up with. We are all told that compromising is a part of every successful relationship. This is most often true, however reality teaches all of us that there are many people out there that take advantage of compromising to the point where they no longer want to compromise and thus all of their relationships start to break down one by one.

Sometimes people are fighting within themselves holding on to the tragedies of their past. Not letting go of past events and not forgiving others for the pain they have caused you truly gets in the way of your being able to live your life the way you need to live it. I purposefully did not say “want to live it”, because the reality is, that we shouldn’t always base our lives off of what we want. It’s more important to look at what we need both from our lives as well as in our lives. I’m certain without the combination, you won’t end up happy. Everyone I know that has not processed through their tragedies no matter how major or minor has not been able to move forward in their lives. It hurts me deeply to see this. So many people I know rant their anger and frustration all over Facebook. I’m almost certain that if they were able to work through their feelings they wouldn’t be making destructive decisions that can ultimately damage their working career down the line or the relationships that they have with their peers.

Pain must be processed and not pushed aside. The results can be life altering. Why give into destruction when healing actually benefits you and everyone in your life? Speaking from experience, I can honestly say it’s definitely better to process the pain.  You don’t forget the things that have happened. You just move on. But you can’t move on until you’ve done something with the pain.

Enough said.  Time to prepare for a slumber party involving 6 teenage girls.  All is well in just another day in the life of ME!© By Felina Silver Robinson


“Dudes” vs “bros”: How Americans refer to their friends

 


 

My ThrowBack Thursday Poem of the Day

(12/18/14)

When You Didn’t Know Me Any Better©

princess Alicia 12-1995Seth Christmas 1995Tanisha December 1995

When you were young and you didn’t know me any better

I used to cry myself to sleep at night

I wasn’t sure if I could get things right

I wasn’t sure that I could be all that you needed me to be

I was too afraid that I would fail you

And you would turn out right

I was afraid to be your only parent

The only person that would shape your life

The only one to teach you right from wrong

I was afraid you wouldn’t hear me

That you wouldn’t listen

That you wouldn’t care what I was trying to teach you

When you didn’t know me any better

I wished that things were different

That I had more to offer you

That I could offer you the world without any heartbreak

Without a need or a wish for anything

That all you had to do is ask and all you desired would lay there before you

But then I realized how lucky we both have been to have each other

I came to realize that as long as we are together

All would be right with the world

I’m so honored to be the one to raise you

I hope that you now know me better!

Copyright 2014

When You Didn’t Know Me Any Better©

Felina Silver Robinson


 

My ThrowBack Thursday Poem of the Day

(12/11/14)

Forever Friends©

Jenna David and John Carrigg with Tanisha 12-1989Julie and David Carrigg 12-1989 

At a time when my family was missing
You became my family
But foremost we became friends
In times of trouble
In times of need
You were right there by my side
I didn’t have to ask
You came on Que.
You always knew
Where to be
just what to do
Even more so, what to say
I didn’t much know what to do without you

Now years have passed
I still think of you often
Wondering if you think of me
I find myself wishing that we were still as we use to be
But time changes everyone
But it hasn’t changed the way I feel about you
My ear is always here if you need someone to listen
My door is always open
Our friendship
Still holds a special place close to my heart

I’ll always be a phone call away

It’s clear to me that we are “Forever Friends.”

Copyright 2014

Forever Friends©


My ThrowBack Thursday Poem/Photo of the Day

(09/04/14)

College Days©

Felina - Newbury College July 1987

Saturdays from 9-5

I belonged to Newbury College

With friends from all over

Gathered to learn

All that we could about

Business

Accounting

Law

Psychology

Economics

Marketing

Public Relations

Human Resources Management

Great American History

English Composition

And

More

All

To get a better job

To get you a bigger title

To make you feel more whole

To find professional happiness

Colleges Days

Full of fun

Full of learning

Full of stress

Full of life long friendships

Hoping for change

And

New Direction

Happy to see College Days

Come and Go

Copyright 2014

College Days©

Felina Silver Robinson


My Poem of the Day

(09/03/14)

Coming or Going©

Today

Driving through my neighborhood

I saw

For Sale Signs

Open House Signs

Moving Signs

And

Yard Sale Signs

Everyone is Coming

Everyone is Going

In talking to friends and neighbors

I’ve come to find

That

Their kids are now going to private school

So now even the students are leaving

It’s a sign of the times

Overcrowding

At

Home

And

At

School

No more comfort

So we have to make our own

What’s good for some

Is bad for others

There are somethings that not even

A

Pretty flowerbed

A fresh coat of paint

Block Parties in the summer

Community yard sales

Yankee Swaps in December

And

Good neighbors

Can fix

So tell me

Are you coming or going

Copyright 2014

Coming or Going©

Felina Silver Robinson


My Poem of the Day

(09/02/14)

This world is “Ours”©

The world I was born into

Is clean, yet dirty

Where

Some are wealthy, some are poor

Some are starving, others eat plenty

Some are homeless, some have beds for many

Some are grateful, some are entitled

Some are charitable and would give their last dollar

Others will beat you and send you packing

The person I am is

Tolerant and forgiving

Believing that everyone can change

I hope for the day

That we wipe out the threat or even the idea of

War

Racism

Hate

Selfishness

Poverty

and

Have more

Selflessness

Understanding

Patience

And

Love for one another

This world is “Ours”

It was made for each and every one of us

Life is happier when people work together

And

Not against each other

Copyright 2014

This world is “Ours”©

Felina Silver Robinson