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Glenn Grassett killed wife before killing self, AG says

BARRINGTON, N.H. — Investigators said a marriage headed for divorce ended violently in Barrington over the weekend when a man shot and killed his wife before killing himself.

Officials said Glenn Grassett, 61, and Pauline Grassett, 44, were found shot to death in their home on Layne Farm Road on Saturday. The Attorney General’s Office said Glenn Grassett killed his wife and then turned the gun on himself.

Friends said Pauline Grassett had two sons and custody of a 5-year-old granddaughter. One son is in the Navy and arrived back in New Hampshire on Tuesday.

Her other son is finishing a prison sentence, and friends said they are working to get him released in time to attend his mother’s funeral and say goodbye.

“A friend of Mrs. Grassett was concerned when she couldn’t reach her and had gone to the residence and called police when she couldn’t find anyone there,” said Senior Assistant Attorney General Janice Rundles.

Investigators said Pauline Grassett’s body was found in one room and her husband was found dead in another with a 9mm handgun nearby.

“She was shot once in the head and a few more times about the body,” Rundles said.

Officials said the two were in the midst of divorcing, but investigators weren’t able to recover many clues in the house that explain the murder-suicide.

“I don’t believe investigators have located a note,” Rundles said. “There was no real sign of a struggle at the residence.”

Pauline Grassett worked at Liberty Mutual in Dover. Her coworkers left condolence messages on a memorial webpage describing her bright smile and willingness to help anyone out.

She also fostered dogs for a local rescue organization, which is now planning to build an outdoor play area for dogs in her name.

“The next of kin have been notified, and investigators are wrapping up their review of the evidence,” Rundles said. “But basically, it appears we know what happened here.”

Visiting hours for Pauline Grassett are scheduled for Thursday from 4-7 p.m. at Kent and Pelczar Funeral Home in Newmarket.

Bodies found in Barrington home

BARRINGTON, N.H. — New Hampshire state police and the attorney general’s office are investigating an apparent murder-suicide in Barrington.

Authorities say the bodies of a man and woman were found in a home Saturday, and the preliminary investigation indicates the man shot the woman and then himself.

Investigators aren’t releasing any names or the exact location of the incident, and no further information is expected to be made public until early next week.

Police say woman intentionally took own life

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NORTH ATTLEBOROUGH, Mass. — Police say a Rhode Island woman intentionally shot herself to death at a Massachusetts gun range over the weekend.

The Sun Chronicle reports Monday that police said 22-year-old Ariene DeBarros of Providence shot herself at about 2 p.m. Saturday at the American Firearms School in North Attleborough, where she had gone target shooting with her brother and his girlfriend. She was pronounced dead at Sturdy Memorial Hospital.

The newspaper said a police report said DeBarros left notes about her intention and also posted a comment to her Facebook page.

Someone who saw the posting called police, but the warning was too late.

Police said they were told the woman’s boyfriend recently died, but her Facebook posting said that wasn’t her motivation.

Police said the school is licensed by local police and complies with town regulations.

John Burbine accused of molesting 13 children

CAMBRIDGE, Mass. — A convicted sex offender who had been awaiting trial on charges of molesting 13 infants and toddlers at his wife’s day care center died after an apparent suicide attempt on Friday morning.

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John Burbine, 50, who had pleaded not guilty to the charges, was found by a guard inside his jail cell at the Middlesex County Jail in Cambridge around 8 a.m., officials said.

According to a statement released by the Middlesex County Sherrif’s Office, Burbine, of Wakefield, “was in need of medical attention” when the officer saw him in his cell. Officials said medical personnel immediately rendered life-saving procedures and brought him to Massachusetts General Hospital.

Officials said Burbine died Friday evening.

“As is standard with all detainee deaths, an internal investigation has commenced and this matter has been referred to (Massachusetts) State Police assigned to the Middlesex District Attorney’s Office,” Public Information Officer Kevin Maccioli said.

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Prosecutors allege that between August 2010 and August 2012, Burbine molested children ranging from 8 days old to 3 1/2 years old at his wife’s unlicensed day care center.

Burbine had offered to be castrated in exchange for a lesser prison sentence, but prosecutors opposed the request.

Marian Burbine, his wife, is facing charges for allowing her husband to have access to the children.

When is enough, enough? By Felina Silver Robinson

Pressure: a constraining or compelling force or influence: the social pressures of city life; financial pressure.

Each of us, adult and children alike, face daily pressures.  It’s not easy for any of us. But imagine the struggle of an undeveloped adolescent mind swarming with hundreds of thoughts through their academic day. Did I get it right? How can I stand up and talk in front of all of my peers when I can’t even talk to my best friend? Do they make fun of me when I’m not looking? Why don’t they like me? Why does my teacher pick on me all the time? Why can’t I talk to my teacher? Why do they give us so much homework? Will my parents be mad at me if I can’t get everything done? Will my teacher punish me if I can’t finish the work? Everyone of these questions are ones that I’ve heard first hand from my own children, their friends, or children that I’ve listened to during other school related activities. We’ve all been there. It just seems that it might be harder now than it use to be. Expectations are so much higher now because not only has life changed so much, but curriculum as well as the expectations of teachers and the Board of Education.  In the New York Times article “Expecting the Best Yields Results in Massachusetts” it is stated that “If Massachusetts were a country, its eighth graders would rank second in the world in science, behind only Singapore”.  If you think that’s something what do you think about the fact that Massachusetts eighth graders also did well in mathematics, coming in sixth, behind Korea, Singapore, Taiwan, Hong Kong and Japan. The United States as a whole came in 10th in science and 9th in math, with scores that were above the international average. If you were a school aged child at this time, wouldn’t you feel a lot of pressure to keep up?  Not every child across the board is good at math or science.  In fact, I know that my three youngest children struggle a lot with math.  They all love science though and work hard to do their best at it.  Is there best good enough though? It seems that there is more emphasis within the school systems to push forward the children that are strong in Math and any other area of academics. But not enough effort is spent on children that are not as good. There is a nice one hour math tutoring program where high school students come and “help” with math.  But the help that is given isn’t necessarily the help that is needed.  Many parents don’t have the finances to send their children to private tutors so they fall through the cracks.

The biggest pressure I find is “homework”.  Every child from 6th – 8th grade is swimming in homework.  6th graders suffer the most because they are the least ready.  In 5th grade they spend so little time doing homework that by the time they reach 6th grade, they are shocked by all that must be done. The day is a long one for all kids, but once homework comes into the picture everything changes. Each kid has at least 5 subjects of homework, with an expectation of no less than 30 minutes for each subject.  So that is at least 2.5 hours of homework every day.  However, the majority of assignments take at least 1 hour to complete.  Most children don’t want to leave things undone because they know it will have to made up somewhere down the line.  So then the 2.5 hours of homework turns into the realistic amount of 5 hours. When you think about the fact that our kids have a 6.5 hour school day coupled with 5 hours of homework, mixed in with a school play practice here, and a sports activity there, and don’t forget enrichment classes.  Where is the time to socialize or just have some breathing space? Often when a child needs help or didn’t get to finish the homework, they are punished by having to stay indoors and there goes the only real time they may have had to socialize for the day.

So our kids end up coming home tired, overworked, picked on and frustrated because there was not enough time to have any worthwhile fun.  Add all of this up over time and you get kids with emotional breakdowns, kids who feel like they just can’t take it anymore, kids who feel they have no friends because they are always being picked on an no one ever does anything about it. This often leads to kids wanting and feeling the need to “commit suicide”.  The recent article about the 3 Teen Suicides in Newton. Really floored me and I realized that I really don’t want that too happen to any of my children.  Heck, it shouldn’t happen to anyones children.  So what are we going to do to fight this battle? What can we do? Reading about what you can do, what you can say, and how to understand what our children are feeling can really help.  But more than that, letting our children know that they are not alone and there is someone around that understands what they are feeling and going through really helps. Boston Children’s Hospital circulated the following information: Suicide and Teens, Just so you know, children all over the world are feeling the stresses of homework.  Read: Homework overload is stressing our children who need more time to chill-out and relax.  We need to arm our children and ourselves with ways to deal with all of life’s pressures so that we are prepared to face all that life has in store for us. I found another article helpful titled: “Resolving Student-Teacher Conflicts“. This article helps your child build the necessary skills to feel comfortable approaching an adult that they may not be so comfortable trusting or relying in.  Everyone faces and interacts with people everyday that makes them uneasy and causes them to be fearful.  Having the right tools to help them work through their feelings are key to having successful relationships throughout their lives. I find it best to face problems head on as they arise for it becomes emotionally dangerous to hold onto things that cause fear or pain.

I will say one more thing about homework, which is my personal resolution to the homework issue. We are all aware of the fact that homework is used as a method of testing what our children are being taught in the classroom as well as an extension of what there isn’t enough time to finish teaching in the daily classroom.  My feeling is that since there are 5-6 subjects in elementary school, that homework is rotated so that there are never more than two subjects of homework per evening and never more than 45 minutes worth of work per subject.  Reading of course would continue to happy nightly, but within reason. For example: Monday’s and Thursday’s – Science and Social Studies, Tuesday’s and Wednesday’s – English and Math and Friday’s – Health and Spanish.

Aside from the regular pressures, then there is the peer pressure thing. If you’re different, the kids are always going to let you know about it.  No matter how much time you spend on anti-bullying, it’s always going to happen and their going to be afraid to tattle on the bullies.  If you’re a cool different, all is well and the kids will shake your hand or hug you.  If it’s a bad or awkward different than kids just come out and tell you about it and they don’t care if it hurts your feelings, and they will pick, pick and pick on you and at you. Please make sure that you always check in with your kids about bullying. Read: How to talk to your kids about bullying.

We need our children to be as well rounded and level headed as possible. If they are overwrought due to stress and other things then they aren’t really the children we know and love. We see aside of them that we shouldn’t have to see.  Children are supposed to be given an opportunity to live as children until they are meant to face young adulthood, which is truly once they reach high school.  High School prepares our children for College life and that is another story altogether. They are children once and should not grow up not knowing what being a child is. Don’t hold them back from what they are ready to face, but don’t push them forward unprepared.

I leave you with a last note.  What you can’t handle on your own, reach out for a helping hand. Those with knowledge and experience are always willing to share it. But often don’t know their services or expertise are required. The child you help today may be the adult that ends up helping someone else tomorrow.



3 Newton teens have committed suicide since October 

NEWTON, Mass. — A steady stream of mourners came to Roee Grutman’s home Tuesday where signs posted in the snow honor the 17-year-old. Grutman, a junior at Newton South High School, is described as smart and well liked.

Last week Grutman took his own life, the third Newton teen to do so since October.

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“It’s like a nightmare that rears its ugly head again,” said Lila McCain, whose daughter Karen Douglas killed herself in October. “No parent should have to lose a child this way or any way.”

Douglas, a Newton North senior died within two weeks of Katie Stack, a Newton South sophomore.

“It’s so tragic and we can’t prevent every suicide but we can do a better job and a better job means knowing the signs to think about and to look for and having the courage and the language to talk to our kids. That’s what it’s really about,” said Jon Mattleman, director of Youth Services in Needham.

That community also struggled with a string of five suicides from 2004 to 2007.

“It is a problem. If you look at the MetroWest survey of adolescents, approximately 10 percent of MetroWest youths are seriously considering suicide,” said Mattleman. “It is a crisis and we really have to call it that to mobilize support.”

Newton’s superintendent has initiated a signs of suicide program in the schools.

“It’s not just a school issue,” said David Fleishman. “It’s a community issue.”

McCain has launched an online campaign called Get Real Campaign.

“We want people to not Photoshop their lives, and to just be OK with their imperfections and if they need to get help to seek that help,” McCain said.


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